A new study suggests it may be true. Married men who spend time doing traditionally feminine household tasks -- such as grocery shopping, cleaning and cooking -- recounted having less sex than men who stick to traditionally masculine chores such as gardening or home repair.
According to one researcher, when it comes to chores, equality between the sexes doesn't necessarily turn on either the man or the woman. Although women are happier in a relationship when there aren't issues about housework, it doesn't translate to sex if the men help. Therefore, while women may say they like having their mates help around the house, his goodhearted efforts may end up turning him into a helpmate rather than an object of desire.
Modern times don’t seem to change the equation. Although a lot has changed in marriage since the 1960s – With 71% of all mothers working outside the home in the U.S. today, and men having a greater role in child rearing -- research shows relatively little change in household assignment of tasks since the 1990s. Although some researchers speculate that it's possible that when both spouses work outside the home, sheer fatigue and exhaustion could reduce the frequency of sex.
More sex drive killers:
Stress: Stress at work, home, or in relationships can happen to anyone. And while there are some people who perform many things well when they're stressed, generally speaking feeling sexy usually isn't one of them.
Relationship Problems: It seems obvious and it is true, problems with your partner are among the top sex-drive killers. Fighting, poor communication, feeling betrayed, and trust issues will kill libido.
Lack of Sleep: Anything that messes with a good night's sleep can get in the way of having sex. Fatigue undermines feeling sexy.
Medications: Some drugs can sap desire. Let your doctor know if your sex drive comes to a standstill soon after you start taking a new drug. Some of these types of medications may include:
- Blood pressure medications
- Birth control pills (some studies show a link; others don't)
Weight Issues: When you're overweight or obese, desire may dim either because you can’t perform as you would like to or you’re held back by issues regarding self-esteem.
Erectile Problems: Many men worry about how they will be able to perform sexually, and that worry can drain their desire. Taking a natural male enhancement pill often helps with self-confidence, boosting blood flow and enhancing libido. Look for one that is manufactured in a GMP lab and formulated with natural ingredients.